5 Steps To Ease Separation Anxiety

Does your child cry when your spouse wants to hold her? Or does your little toddler try to keep a hold of you even when you are not leaving? Does she not want to be held by anyone other than you and throws tantrums or gets scared when you leave? There are a few tricks to ease any separation anxiety.

1. Accept It
This too shall pass. Your child will not be clingy forever. Usually, the worst time for separation anxiety is before the child’s first birthday. It might even break your heart a little bit, when he doesn’t want to cling to you as much any more.

2. Trapped
Don’t feel trapped. Sometimes a crying baby, that will do nothing other than hang onto you all day and all night, can be overwhelming. You may feel as though you have too many other things to take care of, and it would be much easier if the baby would just let go a little bit. Don?t get angry, the baby just loves you that much, and wants to be close to you.

3. Know You’re Here
If they even start to scream when you leave the room, continue to chat if you have to do the laundry. You can even record messages of your voice, singing, talking or reading a book, to help make it easier for you and the baby.

4. Don’t Disappear
For a baby that is terrified of being left. Do not disappear when she is not looking. Many toddlers should be watched at all times. Play peek-a-boo with the baby. This is a great way to let your know that just because you can?t see someone, doesn’t mean they are not there. You can act like a ghost, and pull a sheet over your head. For older children, you can make things like balls and cups disappear and come right back.

5. Reassure Your Partner
Let your partner know he is doing nothing wrong. Many partners, men and women can feel left out, if the baby only wants to be with and cling to one of the adults. Let them know that this is just a stage too. Do activities together, so that the baby feels more comfortable with whichever person it is that’s being left out. Let the person know that toddler does not love you more.

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How to Handle Temper Tantrums

toddler temper tantrum Are you tired of terrorizing temper tantrums? We are referring to your children here, not your spouse, but even the tiniest toddler can create a terrific and turbulent scene. And even if you are a perfect parent, childhood meltdowns are simple facts of your young one’s life. Take a deep breath and relax, and use the following steps to handle your toddler’s temper tantrums without losing your cool.

Remember to remain calm. A frustrated and screaming child can definitely be contagious, but you need to keep calm, cool and collected to properly deal with the situation. Also remember that your child may not be trying to “get his way.” As you have probably noticed in the past, he could simply be tired or lacking attention, have a low blood sugar issue or some minor pain.

Give your child a choice that allows him to pick an outcome. Though little Billy may want a chocolate coated snack, it might be a little too close to dinnertime to allow that. Say, “Billy, I understand why you are getting upset. But the choice is yours, you can either calm down or you will have to go to your room (or in timeout).”

If he decides to calm down, compliment that choice. Remind him that he wanted a treat right before dinner, and that you said no. Verbally thank him for accepting no as the answer. And if he continues to act out, be firm and enforce the choice that he made, sending him to his room or putting him in timeout.

And remember, this process is much easier with a two-year-old than a six-year-old, so begin this learning process early on. Obviously, you need to try to determine the cause of the tantrum, and over time you may see patterns develop at particular times of the day. Remember to never reward the tantrum, or you are placing your toddler in control.

If your child is craving attention and throwing a fit, you can make long-term changes to avoid future outbursts. Remove your child to a crying room, to your car or even to a restroom and discuss the problem calmly. Tell them that you refuse to talk to them until he or she calms down, and discuss the situation with your child face to face once the terrible tantrum has ended.

As mentioned above, temper tantrums are a fact of life for a toddler, and some older children as well. Employing the above tips and strategies early on in your child’s life will develop your relationship hierarchy, and teach your child that you are in control. This will make it easier to deal with inevitable temper tantrums quickly and effectively when they inevitably occur.

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Starting a Small Business: Tips Savvy Moms Need to Know

small businessMany of us have that everlasting dream of starting a small business with a great idea. Starting a small business can be complicated, especially when you’re a single mom, juggling kids, work, home life, and whatever social life you can get. It may be difficult to imagine quitting full-time work in order to pursue a dream, but if the dream is one that will increase your income long-term, it may be a dream worth pursuing. Here are a few things to consider if starting a small business seems like an impossible dream.

 

Grants

Small business grants may be available through your state for single moms. Free money is a pretty serious incentive, so take the time to see if your state offers these grants. You owe it to yourself and to your idea. A grant may allow you to quit your full-time job until your business is profitable. Remember, grants aren’t like loans – you don’t have to pay them back – so it’s in your best interest to come up with an idea that will greatly benefit the community or bring additional revenue into your city. Making your idea a reality may come more easily than you realize.

 

Hire Well

When you come to the point of starting your small business, eventually you’ll probably need to hire some staff. Employee turnover can quickly sap a business’s profits, and you don’t want to go through the stress of firing someone. Take your time to select good people, and thoroughly check their references. Monster has a great list of attributes to look for when hiring a new employee. Even when you’re first starting out, keep a list in mind of your dream team, including what types of personalities, strengths, and charisma would best match the work that needs to be done as your business grows.

 

Hire Contractors

You’ll be able to do many tasks yourself with a little ingenuity and research, but when it comes to your brand and face to the world, it’s important to get it done right. If you’re not a marketer and don’t have much experience with design and branding, it’s important to invest some money into having this done well. Doing it badly may damage your brand in front of the very people you want to notice you. Decide where you’re willing to spend, and spend wisely.

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